Mating Dance

It’s Mother’s Day today, Dear Reader…

*Yeah, Clicky, that so reminds me of mum… /lights up…*

I’ve not been about much as I’m settling into my new job and editing some short stories submissions for the next Underdog Anthology

Two Finger Salute

*That’s right, number 5… /drags… *

… And struggling to write a submission of my own. So, I thought I’d post an extract from Mother’s scribblings, to see if it can’t get my own creative juices flowing…

*Fingers crossed, Clicky… /flicks ash… fingers crossed…*


Extract from ‘A Family History for Ruth and Julia (Gawd ‘Elp Us!**)’, a.k.a. ‘The Ma Papers’ by Judith Eileen Newton (formerly Shewan, née Packer)

My cousin Margaret and I used to go to a dance hall at Catford called The Savoy. It was really classy compared with Victor Sylvester’s. It was later renamed Mr Smith’s and was closed down after a fatal shooting, and I read in a crime book that the shooting was to do with the Richardson gang.

The Savoy had a member’s bar downstairs, and typically for the time, only men could be members; women could only be guests. Our main aim was to meet a man who was a member so that you could enter the inner sanctum so to speak. It was a really weird sight on a Saturday night because the main dance floor was virtually empty except for girls until about 10 o’clock. They would be dancing together and waiting for the boys – who by now were well oiled having been downstairs drinking all evening – to appear, ready to pull.

To have a long term boyfriend that was a club member enabled you to bypass the upstairs dance floor and go straight downstairs with your bloke. Then you could amble upstairs with him later and look down our noses at the expectant girls amassed as if to say ‘Look what I have got girls. Eat your heart out’.

I’ve always been fascinated with people and psychology and I think that, even then, I looked at people and mused. I have been in both situations at The Savoy – both with a bloke and without – and the mating dance is fascinating. It rarely changes; just the people were different. When I started to go dancing again, after Daddy died and I moved to Southend, I was petrified because I had not done that sort of thing for years. I really shouldn’t have worried because it has not changed. Oh the words are different, and the remarks are cruder and courser, but basically it’s the same.

The boys arrive and circle the floor sizing up the talent. The girls try to look nonchalant but are also eyeing up the boys. They have a sixth sense about who is going to ask them to dance and will indicate to the girl that they are dancing with that two guys are approaching, and whether they look good or not. The other will then say ‘no, I don’t fancy them’ or ‘yes, they are all right’ and the boys will then try to split them up. That’s easy if the girls fancy the boys, but virtually impossible to split them if they don’t.

Remarks like ‘Piss off’ or worse were not used in those days and yet I have heard them nowadays. Back then we gently declined and the boys continued to circle looking for other likely candidates. The girls’ worry was wasting a dance on someone that they did not fancy and missing out on a better prospect. The boys’ worry was to be left without a girl at the end of the evening.

The worse part of being a girl was that if your mate was prettier than you. She would be asked to dance while standing on the sideline, and this would leave you on your own if you were not asked to dance. You felt embarrassed, and even though you both agreed at the beginning of the evening that one would not dance and leave the other alone, when the crunch came ‘all’s fair in love and war‘.

Margaret being 4 years older than me was particularly unscrupulous in this respect. Many’s the time when I have refused to dance with someone and leave her on her own when, blow me, she’d be off with the first bloke that asked her, leave me standing.

It was on one of these memorable occasions when Daddy ambled up to me and it all started. Margaret and I were dancing when the boys came upstairs. I saw these two blokes eyeing us up and said to Margaret, “There are two boys coming over. Say no.”

Terry asked Margaret to dance and she said “Yes”. His lanky friend asked me and I said “No”. Margaret waltzed off with Terry, leaving us standing there awkwardly.

Still smiling, Daddy leaned down and whispered in my ear,“I have just walked the whole length of this dance floor to ask you to dance, don’t make me look like a fool now.” So I danced with him and your lives began.

Terry took Margaret home and she lived in Bellingham, which is a long way from Bermondsey, which is where I lived. As it turned out both Terry and Bob lived in Bermondsey, too.  Sods law is that I went to Catford to meet new folk and end up with a bloke that lived in the next street.

I will not go into any more details here I will leave the details until the chapter about myself.


Catford Bellingham Southend

*That’s kinda weird, Clicky… /final drag…*

Enjoy your Sunday, Dear Reader, and… Have a Song ❤

7 thoughts on “Mating Dance

  1. Roob

    I hope you are being pampered. And Clicky is getting plenty of fish.

    And as its Mother Day, I remember my mum saying ‘There are plenty more fish in the sea’ after I had split with my first girlfriend.

    And reading the story, it reminds me how excruciating clubs and trying to pick up girls could be.

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    1. Indeed, a lot of painful trial and error, but a lot of fun too. I met Thoughtful Man in a club in Wimbledon…

      I was there with my friend Verity – against my wishes, I might add; I wanted to watch the England v Holland World Cup match that night – and we’d split up as she was chatting up the barman and I was left standing alone, slipping my drink and watching the goings on. Then suddenly, from across the dance floor, I saw him and he saw me. Our eyes met…

      Blond and stocky with a cheeky face – exactly like a certain footballer all over the news…


  2. Cliff & the Drifters/Shadows.

    Bugger Cliff – the best instrumental group of all time. Arguably!

    And as it’s Mothers Day, two defectors from the Shads gave us Diamonds:

    Hope you have a great day, RooB.

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  3. savoy

    it’s the place between gene and dolphin

    Savoy (/səˈvɔɪ/;[2] Arpitan: Savouè, IPA: [saˈvwɛ]; French: Savoie [savwa]; Italian: Savoia [saˈvɔːja]; German: Savoyen [zaˈvɔʏ̯ən]) is a cultural region in Western Europe. It comprises roughly the territory of the Western Alps between Lake Geneva in the north and Dauphiné in the south.

    it’s delicious? or not?

    Creme tangerine and montelimar
    A ginger sling with a pineapple heart
    A coffee dessert, yes you know it’s good news
    But you’ll have to have them all pulled out
    After the Savoy truffle
    Cool cherry cream, a nice apple tart
    I feel your taste all the time we’re apart
    Coconut fudge, really blows down those blues
    But you’ll have to have them all pulled out
    After the Savoy truffle
    You might not feel it now
    But when the pain cuts through
    You’re going to know, and how
    The sweat is going to fill your head
    When it becomes too much
    You shout aloud
    You’ll have to have them all pulled out
    After the Savoy truffle

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    1. Also a type of cabbage, MJ…

      And a hotel that I celebrated Burns Night at back in 200-and something. Oh also the theatre I visited back in 1994 on 23.7 😉


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